Why We Really March

I march because I didn’t know I had something to say in an academic class until I went to a woman’s college and there was no one there to talk over me.  My ideas suddenly mattered.  I had never felt smart before.  My thoughts had space to grow.  I march because I’ve been a woman leading a multi-million dollar construction business in central Indiana for 20 years, and I shouldn’t have had to build a personal reputation before I got service at a contractor sales desk where only “real” contractors get their orders filled.  

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Kindness: The gift of sorrowful connection

At some point in our lives, we each have had such deep sorrow that we have been able to see this connection.  Somehow that has to envelop you to see where kindness really lives— in the daily interruptions it shows its face in holy grace— this week I saw it in the man who needed a jump start in front of AutoZone, in a colleague who needed a hug, in the blessing of writing a hand written thank you note, in sitting with a friend in her darkest moments, in kissing sweet heads as they trot off to school.  I have seen the things I could not schedule bring me closer to being centered myself.  Each instance bringing me a bit of grace I didn’t expect, reminding me that kindness will turn this world right.  I have faith that the rest will be revealed as I am ready to act on it.  

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Rise up: Your time for action is now

Many of us are waking in disbelief.  How could this happen?  What America do we live in, that a candidate endorsed by the KKK is now President?  We live in the same America we were in yesterday, the same one that has been showing us who she is for the past several years as conflicts between races and nationalities have simmered.  The signs have been there, and I am ashamed to say I am one of the ones who is surprised at the results this morning. 

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Radical Love in the Classroom: Kindergarten lessons for life

How we ever got to 6th grade graduation is a mystery.  My strongest memory from elementary school was the one where I’m jammed, as a 35 year-old, into the minuscule desk my son would occupy for the next year.  Knees about level with my chest, the chair wasn’t even a foot off the floor, which put the stack of papers in front of me level with my pupils. In the midst of it I knew there was a lesson for me in kindergarten.  Even that first night, dizzy with the prospects of my eldest even arriving at that place where he would leave home alone (with 40 other children on a yellow school bus) the following morning, I knew.  The sadness that toddlerhood was surely over mixed with the single-mom relief of no more day care bills for one child.  She must have been a magician to teach me anything that night, but she did, and it is with me still.  

When I met Julie Grinell I knew she was the right one for my kid, but I had no idea how she would go on to change these lives, my own among them.  Her kind eyes sparkled at us all, individually.  She’s one of those people who makes you feel supremely special, even though you know she does that for everyone...

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Summer To-Don't: Setting the scene for a summer full of memories

If you are a parent, and perhaps even if you are not, you’ve long since come out of the dark winter and into the craze of spring activities.  It seems to crescendo up until the very last minute of school, with recorder concerts, graduations, end of school parties, field trips and much-needed teacher appreciation gifts and events.  I find myself arriving breathlessly at this time each year, and making resolutions of a different kind:  not to do lists surround my summer.  Here’s what my to-don’t list looks like for the summer ahead:

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When Popular Doesn't Become You

My parenting is directed toward self-sufficiency, but there are times it is meaningful to step in as a more active coach and guide. Sam's decision to give up football was one of those. For years, Sam has aspired to fit in at school. Waffling between being emotionally worn down from bullies, and just not caring that he's a one of a kind guy-- which frequently means he is lonely, he has made various attempts to find activities where he belongs. Like most boys...

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